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I’ve been thinking about my health recently.
I’ve always been one to value health and wellness, nutrition and exercise – fitness in general. But I’ve always had ‘reasons’ why I could not live the way I wanted. There was always something. And, truth be told, there will always be reasons. Money. I can’t afford to eat healthy. Time. I’m just too busy to exercise, to plan meals, to grocery shop. Tired. I just don’t have the energy to exercise, to go out for fresh food or that missing ingredient for that recipe.
So what does that mean? I’m too tired to live? I’m too busy for life? I can’t afford to live? Then what the heck am I doing??
And then there’s a different problem to busyness: eating too quickly (and let’s not forget ‘quick food’ generally means ‘unhealthy food’). My mind is going over and over the tasks of the day, and the next day, and the rest of the week, the rest of the month. I hardly taste the food, and my hand is trying to move from plate to mouth as fast as a thought is moving from forefront to background. Impossible. This leads to eating more than necessary because I’m not thinking about it: I’m not thinking about whether I’ve satisfied my hunger or not. And sometimes I blasted well liked the food and wanted to actually taste it – at least a couple bites of it. Mindless eating… This usually means I get a lil more to satisfy my taster. But it’s not healthy. Eating slower means I don’t overeat (well, less likely), I can enjoy it, and I maintain a healthier digestive tract.
I’ve been doing better with the home-cooking arena lately, and the targeted shopping. Oh, and the exercise a lil bit too. 🙂 But I have not been conquering the hasty eater, which makes me feel like a failure. And then there’s the semi-contrasting side that gets upset at hunger for interrupting my work. “For pity’s sake, I fed you [two hours/three hours] ago! Does it ever end?” What a mess. But let’s not delve into my pathology too far, shall we… 🙂
Today a phrase kept repeating in my mind (but not in the annoying way): “Savor it.”
So many times I treat day-to-day life the same way I do food. It’s either in my way or sped through by overthinking the future and losing sight of the present. Savor it. Savor the moments. Think in the moments. No, don’t lose sight of the future. Keep planning. But not at the expense of the present. If I enjoy it the first time, I won’t feel like I need to go back for seconds. I won’t wake up suddenly to realize my ‘bowl’ is empty and I never even tasted it. I won’t be left with vague memories of a vague life.
So that’s my advice for the day. For the week. The month. For life.
I was watching the final episode of the Blinds on The Voice, and one of the contestants said now they wanted to do something important. You see, they had been singing in bars and such prior, but now they had the opportunity to sing for a large crowd and, finally, the multitude of television viewers – that was important. Well, it kind of ruffled my feathers. Not that what they said was wrong. It just brought up an issue I have been contemplating lately. Again.
Importance. Subliminal and not so subliminal messages are tossed at us several times a day (from childhood to death) about what constitutes importance. You must have significant bruising for So-n-So to be concerned. You must be significantly bleeding for the injury to be deemed important enough to break societal norms and sob in public. To be important in society, you must provide significant contribution or significant disturbance. You care about So-n-So’s character on TV because he/she has 10 other people/characters that care about him/her, or because you know about some terrible thing they have been through, or because you get to follow them around like a pup with a video camera (there’s a cute image). But you don’t know about this other So-n-So’s struggles or even much about their personality, so you don’t have to care about them – they haven’t given you enough reason yet, nothing truly important or significant.
Everyone is important enough, and more. Everyone is significant enough, and more. And the beautiful thing about it is: it takes nothing from anyone else. Yea! We can stop being threatened by someone else’s recognition of importance. Everyone can be equally important without jeopardizing anyone else’s importance.
Importance is not dependent upon the perception and recognition of others. What you do is important in and of itself. Even if only (and I mean that in a singular way, not belittling) because it is an expression of you. Be it an expression of a perfection or a flaw, or a combination of the two. Every single action is bits and pieces and layers that combine to show who you are – even mistakes and bad decisions (not just to illuminate your flaws but to illuminate what you deem perfect). Who you are is important.
So let’s remove the cracked and distorted lens that says real people have to prove their importance, their worthiness to have some of our time, to share their story – to have a story, like a character does in the first pages of their book or the first episodes of their show. Everyone is worthy of our attention and our care. Just think of how much time we give ourselves. Let’s give some of that focused attention to other people every day. And remember, that action of attention is important – even without Oprah congratulating you on national television for being molto wonderful.